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This is Better Gift Coach, where we help you look beyond gifts that are kind gestures to consider what people really need during lifeās rough patches.

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In todayās edition, we highlight a story from Better Gift Coach subscriber, Marcey. As the owner of a productivity training & coaching company (helloraderco.com), it doesnāt surprise me at all that Marcey gives gifts that cut to the core of what someone needs when dealing with a loss.
Related to todayās bereavement focus, but not directly related to gifts, hereās an easy-to-digest list of ways to support grievers.
Please donāt hesitate to reply todayās email with more of your bereavement/memorial gift ideas. Iād love to share your ideas with the community. These are important gifts that we donāt often actively plan ahead forā¦
Estimated read time: 2 minutes & 59 seconds
THE GIFT STORY
šTHE GIFT:
The āin the trenches with you" Gift
When my friend's mother was in hospice, I knew she needed help packing up their house in a different way than a mover or a friend could provide. I paid for five hours from a personal organizing service ($227), which she used to help take down and pack away all the holiday decorations and sentimental items she needed to go through.
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š® WHY THIS GIFT IS GREAT:
Focuses on needs
Possible last-minute gift
At its core, itās the gift of saving time & energy
MAKE THIS GIFT YOUR OWN
š”TIPS FOR YOUR GIFT:
Asking permission:
Before gifting a professional service, you should probably ask permission
Have an honest convo with them to discern if they truly want this gift
Avoid asking āhow can I help?ā
My friend Becky Sansbury wrote a book - After the Shock: Getting you Back on The Road to Resilience When Crisis Hits You Head On. In it, she says not to ask "what do you need" or "how can I help?". That puts the responsibility on the grieving person to come up with something. Make sure to offer help with something specific."
Volunteering yourself:
Instead of contracting a professional, you can offer your personal assistance
Only offer your assistance in areas in which your inexperience wonāt be an additional burden
Possible assistance beyond organizing services:
As you consider how to assist, here are some additional considerations:
Childcare, petcare, lawncare
Grocery shopping, meal prep
Funeral & memorial logistics
Spreading word of the passing
Groceries, meals (start a MealTrain)
Hereās a list of 60 more ways to help
Please reply with any questions/insight
šPUTTING THE GIFT IDEA INTO ACTION:
Who in your life has a loved one who is nearing end of life?___
What assistance will be your go-to offer to a grieving person?___
š If this gift idea is save-worthy, create a āGift Ideasā inbox folder & file it away for future use ~or~ find it again in our library.
COMMUNITY FUN
ā¶ļøFORWARD THIS GIFT IDEA TO:
A close group of friends
And introduce them to your favorite 1-minute-a-week shortcut to always having awesome gift ideas well in advance. They can read past editions and subscribe here.
āØBONUS BEREAVEMENT GIFTS IDEAS FROM THE COMMUNITY:
I think this framed recording of a loved oneās voicemail is a truly unique memorial gift.
If you want to show a grieving person just how much you care, set a calendar reminder and give them a gift to mark the one-year anniversary of the passing.
āWind chimes or a stone statue of an Angel or saint that can be kept in a garden, backyard or under a tree to remind someone of their loved one.ā - Mary
āI have been giving a memorial Christmas ornament. I don't make it a surprise because I ask the specifics of the name (birth name vs "Nana") and the memorial line, "In loving Memory", etc.ā - Karen
šLET'S HEAR FROM YOU:
šSEEKING GIFT STORIES FOR:
Please reply to this email if you have stories of awesome gifts to share with the community that fall under the below topics:
Graduation gifts
Ready-to-give gifts to always have on hand
Motherās day gifts (never too early for gift ideas to make moms smile)
Thank you!
šGIF/MEME:
Here for you under any gifting circumstance,
Patrick Kucharson
Better Gift Coach
P.S. On a separate note, who gave a loved one a birthday gift last year that was a flop? Reply with your biggest gifting challenges and I will help you land a gift idea worthy of being featured in one of our future newsletters.
A SUBSCRIBER'S GIFT IDEA VARIATION:
In response to š Keeping connected - Fairy Godmother Style
āPatrick I love this idea and I do two variations on it. Whenever I see my granddaughter I take her a book or two. I do see her more often than once a year but not more than 6 or 7 times. I also subscribed her to a club that sends her a STEM project every other month - fun and educational things to build or make. Thanks gift coach - always great ideas.ā - Joanne
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